Friday, June 26, 2009

At 4:55 a.m....

Miya fell out of her bed. She's fine, but we haven't been back to sleep. oooh, I bet she is going to be a peach at around 10:00a.m...early nap day today for sure.

Thursday, June 25, 2009

So young.

Rest in peace MJ. I will miss your music.

Friday, June 19, 2009

We are still alive and kickin'

We have been very busy the past few weeks, Miya's time has been filled with hanging out with her mom, grandparents, aunt Lexi, and cousin Thomas. She loves to play outside, go to the park, dig in the sandbox, and oh my she is a water kid for sure. I can't wait to get her going in swim lessons. My time has been filled with work, being a mom, and now I am taking two summer school classes. ooof!

We also went camping a few weekends ago, which was a lot of fun...but also a whole lotta work. Bottom line: packing, traveling, setting up camp, chasing after a 2 years old 24-7, tearing down everything, loading up, traveling home, and unpacking everything is hard (as in I felt like I had been hit by a truck I was so exhausted).

We celebrated 3 family birthdays last week and my birthday was yesterday. That is a LOT of birthday celebration in 7 short days. By the time my birthday rolled around, I was just plain burned, I turned the big 35 and purposely forced everyone to keep it low key.

In addition to the birthday marathon going on around here, we completed our last post-placement meeting with our social worker last week. I can't describe the feeling I felt when our social worker walked out the door...I kind of teared up, but mostly felt relief knowing that my adoption process was complete...and it only took 3 years...

Miya is also hitting the "2's" in a big bad way...she can be a handful and I find it VERY challenging at times, especially when we are out and about....or with family. More on this later...I need to get my thoughts in order before I start writing about it.

I have tons of pics to post and will try my best...I have a feeling my blogging will be coming to an end sooner rather than later. I just can't keep up with it anymore and don't really comfortable sharing our lives on the Internet any longer. The purpose of my blog was to share my adoption journey with friend, family, and the adoption community. I don't know, we'll see...

Have a great weekend everyone, I'll be back soon.

Thursday, June 11, 2009


Oh how I love google.

Miya has begun to display some not so fun behavior lately...

"MINE!" - Dealing With Bad Behavior In a Toddler

If you’re the parent of a toddler I’m sure at some point you have experienced your child behaving badly. Especially where sharing is concerned. If you haven’t yet, beware…it’s bound to crop up in the not too distant future.

The first thing you should know is that your toddler is experiencing a very normal part of development. Even the most reasonable of toddlers will not want to share their precious things at some point.

As embarrassing or difficult as this can be don’t get too discouraged by their bad behavior and certainly don’t blame yourself or your parenting skills. Take comfort in knowing that this is simply part of your toddler’s development and is helping her prepare for her next stage of life.
The good news is you can gently deter this situation even before it starts.

Here are a few tips:

Distraction Technique – Once you see your toddler’s bad behavior start to creep into the picture, distract them with another toy or ask her to come and join you to play on the swings, etc. without making a big deal about sharing. This will often work as toddlers get bored quickly and she’ll probably appreciate the distraction.

Nip it in the Bud – Anytime two toddlers are playing together it’s best to keep a close eye on things. As soon as you see a potential situation about to erupt, dive in there and break it up. Tempt your child with a more interesting toy or show them a fun new game.
If your child is playing nicely and another child is trying to take her things then distract that child. Find something similar or a close replacement to what your child has and offer it to them. Tell them how great it is, of course, don’t overdo it or then you’ll have two toddlers fighting over this new and wonderful toy you’re talking about.

Walk Away – If things get really bad and your child refuses to give back a toy to their crying owner then it’s time to take action. Gently pick up your child and walk away. They may kick and scream but remember YOU are in charge. Take him to a quite corner or space and wait for him to calm down. Then give him a hug and explain that you know he really wanted that toy but that it belongs to someone else. A toddler’s bad behavior is really only a way of expressing themselves as difficult as it may be to deal with at first. Chances are your child isn’t going to understand or accept the meaning of this but you’ve now diffused the situation and can continue to play happily.

The Aftermath – After the fact it’s great to talk things over with your child and explain why it’s important to share, but be realistic. Most toddlers won’t understand the concept of sharing or why they should do it and all the talking in the world isn’t going to change things.

As your child starts to mature that’s the time when it’s more appropriate to try and reason with them since they will start to have an understanding of actions and consequences. During the toddler years that understanding isn’t there.

The best way is often to avoid and / or distract your toddler. This will help diffuse a lot of incidents before they even start.

This morning...

Miya came walking into the bathroom this morning with a ballpoint pen in her hand. I immediately thought oh dear lord...

Sure enough, she now has some sweet ink tattoo's covering both of her arms....just in time for her big birthday bash tomorrow.

At least she didn't decide to graffiti the walls...

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Happy Birthday Miya Mei!

7:00 a.m.
June 10th

Miya is 2!! Happy Birthday!! Whoohoo!!

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Toddler bed

10 days ago Miya and I assembled her toddler bed and set it up in her room. Key word her room. Up until this point, she has been sleeping in my room either with me or in her crib. I just heard all the non AP's gasp in horror.....whatever....don't judge me.

10 days ago she slept in her big girl bed for the first time. Since then, she naps great and for the most part goes to sleep at night with no problem (there have only been a couple times where she has been a little whiny).

Here she is taking her first nap in her "big girl" bed.

Here she is the first night she slept in her "big girl" bed.

She hasn't quite made it sleeping through the night in her room yet. She wakes up and cries and after a couple of times, I just grab her and take her to bed with me because 1) I'm freakin' tired and 2) I have to get up at 5:30a.m.

So, guess what? Last night, my girl slept through the night in her bed in her room. All. night. long. I woke up at 4:45a.m. this morning and thought "holy shit! I mean holy cow! She slept all night long!".

At 5:30a.m., I got up, flipped the news on, and got ready without worrying about waking the sleeping princess up. At 6:30a.m. she walked out of her room, baby and blanket in hand, with a big smile on her face. Awwwwwwwwww....

I hope she does it again tonight! Go Miya!